But it’s just more fun to play than to clean?!
The moms smiled with knowing glances. It was so much better to leave the dishes and just play with those little wiggle monsters. Awkwardly, my question hung in the air as I realized my viewpoint was quite unpopular.
How do I put limits on playing pretend with my toddler? When the timer goes off I need to get things done, but he never seems to be satisfied. What do I do?
Pure and simple, I do not like to play. My Lego tower just got crashed- again. The yellow four-bump Legos are all used. The playdough from the Pinterest recipe adhered to everything and my little wiggle monster just cried because it wasn’t blue.
I also do not like to rest. Rest is the uncomfortable thing one is expected to be doing when they are not accomplishing anything. Although for most people it has some sort of cathartic affect, for me it feels a lot like indigestion.
There is something exceedingly satisfying about cleaning. Not necessarily dishes or laundry (which like our little monsters are never satisfied.) A clean floor is clean. A clean stove is clean. A mowed lawn is mowed. A made dinner is made and is enjoyed. There is satisfaction in accomplishment… Which brings me to my problem with Mary.
“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” (Luke 10:41-42, NIV)
If there was a BiblicalMatch.com the profiles of Martha and Mary would have looked something like this:
*Name: Mary, Sister of Martha
*Likes: Long walks, listening, praying, daydreaming
*Dream Vacation: Anywhere where Jesus is speaking
*Life Motto: Rest easy
*Best Known For: Being the #1 Fan in the Jesus Fan Club
*Name: Martha, Sister of Mary
*Likes: Marathon training, cooking contests
*Dream Vacation: Building houses for the poor of Calcutta
*Life Motto: Git ‘R Dun
*Best Known For: Being an Amazing Hostess
In the Biblical story of Mary and Martha, Mary hung with the guys listening to Jesus. She was patient, not easily rattled. Annoying, really. Oh, Martha, Martha… I have always felt sorry for Martha (probably because as a human it is easy for us to feel sorry for ourselves!)Things needed to be done in the kitchen and Martha was left to do the work. Martha appears to be kind of the ugly step-sister of the story, while Mary is the princess.
Why did Jesus rebuke Martha when she appeared to have a very valid complaint?
1. Pride: Martha’s insistence that her sister come into the kitchen to help was to Jesus (yet done in front of a crowd.) It is likely Martha was in some ways trying to shame Mary and make Jesus rebuke her so Martha would look better in the eyes of those crowded her home.
2. Priority of People Above Things: Jesus knew He would only be with Mary, Martha, and their brother Lazarus for a little while before his death, resurrection and ascension. They did not have many more opportunities to hear Jesus speak. Jesus wanted to share His wisdom with the ones He loved. He also wanted to spend time with them. When Martha was in the kitchen she was not spending time enjoying time in her friend Jesus’ presence.
But shouldn’t Mary have helped, for crying out loud?! Jesus said, “No.”
I like what the Mars Hill Church website says about this passage:
We live in a Martha world; we’re troubled, we’re anxious, and we’re distracted. But God built this world to be a Mary world with Martha moments. When sin entered the world, it turned into a Martha world in which we have to fight for Mary moments. The rhythm of our day is supposed to be Mary first, then Martha. Spend time with Jesus, then get stuff done.
This was a Mary Moment… And as such it’s about time I made peace with Mary.
So, what about you? Who do You relate to most? Do you struggle to make peace with other women who are the opposite of you in the work for Jesus/rest for Jesus spectrum? I’d love to hear your thoughts! Share your comments below.