Post by Faith Reboot’s Kelly Switala
Do you have “vision?”
I’m not talking about vision in terms of eyesight or the visions and dreams we’ve read about in the Bible. I’m talking about purpose, mission, and goals. In the corporate world, it makes perfect sense to establish vision to keep people moving in the same direction. What if we took that same principle and applied it to our marriages?
Are you having an “aha” moment right now?
My husband and I certainly did. As family ministry leaders for our church, we were planning our very first marriage retreat, along with our Pastor and his wife. Looking for video material to show at the retreat our Pastor sent us the video sermon by Jimmy Evans of Marriage Today called The Power of Vision for Your Marriage (below.) In his sermon, Jimmy talked about why it’s important for a couple to share the same vision for their marriage.
Proverbs 29:18 “Where there is no vision, the people perish.” KJV
The word “perish” in this context means “unrestrained”. When a husband and a wife don’t share the same vision, there is a tendency for division, di-vision (meaning 2 visions). The result is that the husband wants to move in one direction while the wife wants to move in another direction. This usually leads to unaccomplished goals and/ or arguments.
Jimmy also told a story about how a friend of his had shared every year he and his wife would take a few days to get away and allow God to speak to them about their marriage and to make sure that they were on the same page regarding goals, priorities, and values.
They called it a vision retreat.
Nearly every couple said that the sermon on vision for marriage and the idea of a marriage vision retreat was their biggest take-away from the marriage retreat.
Personally my husband and I decided that it was important for us to know God’s vision for our marriage, so we committed to taking a vision retreat last year. I can honestly say that it was one of the best decisions we’ve ever made. We were able to get away together and take time to really seek God in his purpose and direction for our marriage and for our family. It helped us to place some much-needed boundaries and it unified us with a clear focus. We’ve since talked to other couples who have taken marriage vision retreats, and they too have found that it’s made a huge difference in their marriages and families.
If I could encourage you to do just one thing for your marriage this year, it would be to take a vision retreat. It doesn’t have to be fancy, it definitely doesn’t have to be boring (Be sure to schedule in some fun too!), but it will be powerful to hear from God and I’m betting it will make a positive impact on your marriage.
Resources: Vision Retreat Guide from Marriage Today and Marriage Vision: How to Create Yours in 5 Easy Steps from Our Peaceful Family
Have you ever taken a marriage vision retreat? I’d love to hear how it changed your marriage and family! (Also, feel free to stop by my blog kellyswitala.com.)