Kelsey can’t seem to keep herself from the draw of her phone. The social media, the games, and the pictures. The Pictures. She has tried to stop looking but the pull is too strong.
At 17 Kelsey is one of the lucky ones. Since she isn’t strong enough to say, “No” her parents can help her with boundaries.
In a year she’s on her own. Alone in a world full of temptation.
If there is one positive thing the Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon has done it has brought to light the fact women are susceptible to pornographic temptations. Written or visual. 40% of Christian women admit to being addicted to pornography. 30% of those women who use porn have been using between 11-20 years.
There is grace available for you if you are addicted. There is grace if you are empty and looking for just something to fill it. There is grace if you go to the movie this weekend.
Jesus always gave grace to those who came to him in humility. There was a story Jesus once told (Luke 14) of two men who went to pray at the temple. One guy was a religious leader and the other was a slimy, underhanded tax agent. The stuck up church guy prayed, “God, I thank you that I am not like other people—robbers, evildoers, adulterers—or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week and give a tenth of all I get.” (NIV)
The tax man humbly looked down and said, “God have mercy on me, a sinner.”
The one who was justified before God was the slimy government guy.
Jesus wraps up the story in verse 14 by saying, “For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.” (NIV)
For someone who is broken and can’t seem to fix themselves God has one word for you, GRACE.
I will not be going to the movie this weekend. I have not read the book. I do not and have not personally had a problem with sexual addiction.
For these very reasons I am tempted.
“God, I thank you I am not like other people- porn watchers, those who read mommy porn, and those who are sucked in to all that artificial romance. I take communion each week and never have anything awful to confess.”
Sadly, I can hear me saying that. I DID say similar words years ago… only in marriage counseling as my husband struggled with addiction.
He was humble. I was haughty.
It took time for me to learn my pride kept me from being a safe person to confide in. My pride kept him from confessing his sin to me. My pride was in the way of our healing as a couple.
How many Christian women going to the movie this weekend will continue to struggle with pornography/erotica in silence because they do not have a female friend who will show them compassion, not condemnation?
There are several online resources available for those dealing with pornography addiction.
*Setting Captives Free-“The Way of Purity” (for those struggling with sexual addiction) and “United Front” (for spouses) are both FREE courses. These are 60 day Bible intensive courses and also include accountability.
*Dirty Girl Ministries– Offers an online community, resources for accountability for women as well as coaching/consulting networks for churches and individuals who want to begin addressing pornography with the women in their influence.
Are you ready? Change can start today!
- Toss it! Dannah Gresh and Dr. Juli Slattery are accepting copies of Fifty Shades of Grey in exchange for their new book, Pulling Back the Shades. Simple. No questions asked. (Now thru 2/14/15.)
- Post it! Want to make yourself approachable to someone who is struggling with sexual sin? Post this blog on your Facebook page. Grace is NOT what people are expecting. Outrage and boycott are easy for the proud. Kick pride to the curb by saying, “I’m here to help.”