I love fashion, fluffy pets, squishy babies and a good tearjerker movie. I enjoy Pinterest, HGTV and frozen “froo-froo” coffee drinks. I giggle. I rock out with goofy hand motions. I also love my job.
What is beautiful? To care for my home and the people in it… To be loved and cherished by a husband and have kids who I can train to love Jesus and become citizens. (Titus 2:4, 5) There is nothing better!
Feminine: of, relating to, or marked by qualities traditionally associated with women (Merriam-Webster)
Somewhere along the lines I became the feminist… What I mean by that is as a follower of Jesus I passionately desire women to be able to live how they were created to live, unashamed of their femininity. To be whole, healthy females. (I wrote about treating women and children with proper respect here.) Women are blessed to be able to work in any field they desire to work. Women can vote and hold any political office.
To continue on the pursuit of “equality” turns people into gender neutral hamsters on the 100% workforce wheel. Full “equality” some say is only attained when women and men are equal in the climb up the corporate ladder.
Today, still only 74% of women are active in the U.S. workforce, little changed in the last 25 years, and trailing far behind many other developed countries… We’re losing the valuable resources of highly trained women,” she said. “It’s looking like we do have to break through this work-family barrier to significantly increase participation. – Cornell University economist Francine Blau CNN Money (read more here.)
Women work plenty.
I have had regular paid employment since I was 12-years-old. When we first married we moved halfway across country for my job. Like many women I have had more opportunities to work than not to work.
I will never forget a poignant moment at a McDonald’s playland. Our kids were playing and I started talking with a mom who listened to the radio station where I did mornings. She said, “I hate dropping my kids off at daycare, but then I listen to you on the radio. I think, well if Brittney does it then I can get through this too.”
It made me sick. I hurt for her. That hurt is real.
I have worked when I have wanted to be at home with my baby, but needed the money. I worked from home for a time. While I was working from home there were times I couldn’t wait to get back into the corporate setting. (I found working easier than being at home!) There have been times while I’ve been at the office when I ached to be at my kids’ school parties.
My job is a wonderful creative outlet. I love what I do, but it is not my priority. (And at the times when it was a higher priority than it ought to have been, my family and home suffered.)
Do guys often get the big promotion? Yes. More power to them. (Yes, I just said that out loud.)
A few years ago I talked with my radio co-host about my fears I wouldn’t be able to find another radio job here in North Carolina. He told me it would be much easier for me to find a job than it would be for him because I am a female. Spots are held just for women. He was right. I am now working part-time so I can be with my kids before and after school. My former co-host is now a radio station manager.
I wouldn’t have it any other way.
When our family moved to North Carolina my husband became the primary breadwinner in our family. It is such a physical, spiritual, emotional and mental relief for me not to have that burden.
One of the greatest gifts a husband can give his wife is this choice of being able to work or not work.
One of the most important things our country can do is not push 100% employment of wives and mothers. With the assumption of two-incomes prices continue to go up in our economy… making it difficult for those who desire to live on one income to be able to do so. Women should not feel like they are doing something strange by not “contributing to the economy.” They may be contributing much more by putting their priorities where they need to be for their family and home.
Let’s Connect! Do you agree women in America have achieved equality in the area of employment? What is your stay-at-home or working mom story? I would love to know what you’re thinking! Leave a comment below.