Be mindful that some of the topics, language, etc., might not sit well with you; in fact, they might be offensive. I trust you and your walk with God to sort that all out.
I could handle the topics. In fact the material was wonderful, but the language disturbed me. Was I being overly sensitive?
So much of the language we call “cussing” is simply cultural. But what is off-limits? And what do we not want our children to say? Oh, the battles!
F-word? Absolutely not.
Frickin’? “But I heard Dad say that!”
Freakin’? Maybe. I don’t know.
Where do we draw the line? Where did the line even come from?
There are clearly offensive words specified in the Bible… These words are “profane” treating as unholy things that are holy. Taking the Lord’s name in vain is strictly prohibited. (Exodus 20:7) Wishing an eternal damnation on someone is forbidden. (God alone has the ability to determine a person’s eternal destiny.) Using profanity to talk about acts meant for the marriage bed takes something holy and makes it disgusting.
Many of the words we don’t say or want our children to say are simply vulgar. They are coarse and unrefined.
Ephesians 5:4 says, “Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place but instead let there be thanksgiving.”
Making a List and Checking it Twice…
A legalist may desire a list of specific words that are wrong and have nice check marks next to each one he does not say.
The S-word, B-word, the A-word, and so on…
But that’s too easy…
“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” Ephesians 4:29
A legalist can check the mouth but not the heart. What would my conversation sound like if I worked on using it to give grace to those who listen? Is my conversation fitting to the occasion? Do I build others up with my choice of words?
Pity the Fool
But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire. Matthew 5:22
Fool. Moron. Idiot. Stupid.
For some time I did a pretty good job not allowing the word, “stupid” in our home. Good moms don’t let their kids say, “stupid” in church.
We put rules like that in place mostly to make us look like the good parents with well-behaved kids. But God thought it was evil enough to call a brother or sister in Christ “fool” they will be liable to the hell of fire. To me that means it’s a big enough deal we should take it more seriously than even the s-word.
If we were to talk Biblically, what would that mean?
1.Care less about specific words, but about the heart behind the words. Sure that list of culturally frowned upon words might be a good start, but a person desiring to follow God’s heart might have an even longer list…
2. Remove words which show disdain and hatred toward brothers and sisters.
3. So you say, “Shut the front door” or “Beans and Wieners”… euphemisms. Check what is really going on? If I am angry, is my anger godly anger? If not, what would God have me do to deal with my anger? Am I disappointed? Was I putting my hope in the wrong things?
4. Sarcastic? Why? What do you really need to say? Are you joking when you really are afraid of speaking Truth?
The Lord desires our heart. He desires control of our tongues. We cannot master these four steps, otherwise James 3 says that would be evidence we are perfect… which we are not.
Here’s to a good start!
Have thoughts on the subject of cussing? What has worked for you in controlling your tongue? I’d love it if you’d comment below.