Post by Faith Reboot’s Marietta Taylor www.mariettataylor.net)
She was losing it and her TV therapist told her to “Relax, Relate, Release.” That phrase has stayed with me even though it’s been years since the television show ended. I think I’ve never forgotten it because I thought it was pretty good advice.
Don’t get uptight. Relax.
Don’t just complain about the person. Find a way to relate to them and try to work it out. Don’t keep holding on to that baggage, bitterness and frustration. Release it and find peace. Sounds pretty good doesn’t it?
As good as that advice is, I found a better trio of R’s. Three years ago we got a diagnosis for one of my daughters that I was not ready for. It changed all our lives. We were upset, hurt, stressed, angry. I wanted to understand why and how this happened. I wanted to fix it because surely this was not a blessing. There had to be a way to get to “the blessing”. As I kept praying and asking for God’s help, I found those original three R’s transformed. So instead of relaxing, relating and releasing, I learned how to recognize, receive and rejoice.
1. Recognize that God is God.
God is in control of everything. We don’t need to figure it all out. We don’t even have to know the master plan or see the big picture. That’s God’s job. I wanted to fix things after that diagnosis so life could be “normal” again. But that was not my role. Instead it was found in this verse from 2 Corinthians 5:7, “For we walk by faith, not by sight”. My role, our role is recognize that we are free to simply follow and trust. Why take on more than you have to?
2. Receive the blessings God has for us.
My disclaimer here is that it might not always be wrapped in the beautiful paper and pretty bows we’re expecting. I certainly was not looking at our situation like it was a blessing. It felt like anything but. And sometimes it still does. But there were several blessings in our situation. Sometimes blessings come in a form that looks and feels like death or pain. You know, the dirty dingy box with the damaged corner and the soiled brown paper that may actually contain a beautiful gem of a blessing. We won’t know until we accept it, open it and receive the thing inside that eclipses the unattractive outside. But also enjoy receiving those blessings that arrive in full regalia leaving no doubt as to its purpose and origin.
3. Rejoice in the Lord always!
I will say it again rejoice! (Philippians 4:4). Why is this good? God gives joy when we rejoice in Him. In Him we find everything we need for He is the creator and sustainer of all. One way to rejoice is to lift your hands in praise to God. If we are holding on to problems, bitterness, anger, sadness, when we lift our hands we loosen our grip on it. That allows God to freely take it from our hands and place it in His. And because we recognize He is in control, we let Him have it. He then fashions it into a blessing, which we then receive back in our open and outstretched hand. Rejoicing brings us full circle back to the One who always was, is now and always will be. That’s peace at its best! I can’t tell you how many times I have had to do this to get peace about my daughter. But what is so good about it is that it works. It works every time.
Try it and you will see!