You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you. Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord God is an everlasting rock. Isaiah 26:3-4
Sometimes disappointment comes slowly… A chipping away of misconceptions and a picture of an uncomfortable reality begins to emerge.
Sometimes disappointment hits all at once and everything comes crashing down in one fell swoop. That’s how it feels when trust is broken. A vision of reality is completely changed instantaneously.
I have had to face this several times in my life, my picture of a person I trusted turned out to be a counterfeit and in a moment everything changed. Hypocrisy and double living.
How does one recover and accept a new reality without becoming bitter? How does one move forward instead of trying to keep the idol of the “Before” picture?
I am trying to figure this out. Again.
It’s hard to recover from broken trust. It takes time and effort. It’s a journey I’ve been on before. Have you?
So why does God bring these journeys around again and again? Why do I have trouble recalling what I did last time? Did I not “get it” so kind of like reincarnation I have to go round again to learn my lesson?
How do I do this? What worked before? Think! Jesus, help me remember.
12 Things to Remember When Trust is Broken
- When trust is broken it’s that person revealing their true, unedited selves. Believe them when they show you their worst.
- Get them help if they will accept it.
- See if they are willing to take it to the Lord. If they are unwilling, they are in rebellion. That’s the root. Pray about that. It must change because everything else is superficial.
- Having a sin revealed may bring a sense of relief for the person whose been discovered, but chaos for the people around them. Broken hearts and broken pieces.
- Remember God is trustworthy and unchanging.
- It’s not me, so I don’t have to fix it.
- Talk to my brothers and sisters in Christ.
- Stay connected.
- Remember my own weakness. I can be dishonest. I am not above breaking trust.
- Stay humble.
- Forgive without limitations, but don’t forget. It takes time and effort to rebuild trust.